Some call the way I parent "Attachment Parenting" but I really just call it "what works for Valerie." I breastfeed my children. It has taken work at times to do so, but it is something I value, so I do it. I also practice what is called "extended" breastfeeding, but at the age of 2 I work actively to wean them. At that point I also insist that they start out the night in their own beds. It has worked for 2/3 children (though there are mornings that our king sized bed feels cramped), so I hope it works well this time around too.
I also have a problem with hearing my kids cry. It's like nails on a chalkboard and I will do anything to make it stop. That is why I'm having the nap problem now. I couldn't bring myself to have him fuss for a bit, and now he's very upset when he is put down (even if he is sleepy or sleeping). So I feel like I'm paying for it double now. I'm not doing this because I'm "supposed" to, I'm sure that I'm breaking the AP rules completely. I just noticed that what we were doing was not working for either of us. He doesn't get restful sleep, I don't get to accomplish what needs to be done, and we're both pretty cranky right now.
How did you get your kids to nap on their own?